Sheesh, where does the time go? I am not sure how three weeks passed so quickly. I do know that we have been in an upheaval mode since my last post.
Three weeks ago today we knew for sure that our precious S & I would be going to their forever family on March 15. That week we spent doing a whirlwind of preparation. For a couple of kids that came with next to nothing in clothes and one ball for toys, we had to take two car loads of stuff over - and then we still found stuff that they left here. We did therapy, we did many hours of phone preparation with the new family, we did lots of fear calming and behavior dealing with. Seems once S sensed there was a change in the air she was all out of sorts and we saw some behavior regression right before she left. One night that week all four kids were crying for different reasons - the two oldest were crying because the two little crying ones would be leaving. We realized that night how hard this was going to be for all our kids.
When all was said and done our two little ones were placed with their forever home on Friday the 12th and after a tearful "see you later" (because it's not goodbye forever), Brian and I decided that it was a must for us to get out of town and fast. We had loosely been toying with the idea that we really needed to see our grandparents (as in our children's great grandparents) and by late Friday night I had clothes packed and a plan in place to drive to CA. The kids had no idea, our CA family had no idea, and we were giddy with anticipation. Jacob had a baseball game Saturday morning and while the kids and Brian were at the ball game I finished packing and loaded the car. My sister came over after the game and took our lab "puppy" under the rouse that we were picnicking with the other two dogs and it might be late when we got back. The kids didn't question the suitcases in the back of the car and assumed the ice chest was for our picnic. About an hour into our drive we admitted we would be going a little further than the lake for our picnic. Reba was ecstatic, Jacob was beside himself - we had not let him mentally prepare. Our family still didn't know.
24 hours later we were cutting off Brian's dad as he was driving down his street. He didn't look too happy until he realized it was us - which took a minute because what the heck were we doing in CA? We spent the rest of the week surprising the great-grandparents.We got to spend a day with each of our grandparents. It was a special treat. We even were able to be there right over my mom's birthday and she got a great shock when Jacob and Reba showed up in her office the morning of her birthday. CA was a wonderful trip and the perfect medicine for a couple of kids (and parents) missing their foster kids.
This week has been spent just trying to get back to normal. We have been playing baseball, softball, we have been working, cleaning house, and noticing how dreadfully quiet it is around here. The last two weeks with only our two kids gave us just enough time to realize how big our kids have gotten. It helped us appreciate how darn funny Jacob is and how sweet and responsible Reba is. This time has been just enough that when we got the call two nights ago for two more kids we said YES almost immediately.
So, now our adventure begins again. Two more kids, a 9 month-old and a 2 year-old, and the second go round has been just as fun as the first. We are thrilled to have babies in our house once again. The two older kids are thoroughly enjoying their big brother/sister rolls and Mommy and Daddy are remembering (after a nice long vacation) what sleep deprivation feels like.
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